Some of the comments are interesting. I’ve said it before and will again that I’m more than a little puzzled at dispute. Why is it that when a person says they are “gay” it is easily believed; then, if someone says they are “no longer gay” it is disputed? In each case a person declares himself or herself as one thing or another. These declarations are not scientifically derived. These statements are not objective. If folks go to court as gay or straight couples, the legal system does not demand “proofs” that the couple is either gay or straight. Our self-declarations are enough.
I think that the ex-gay faces such a different scrutiny. Take one of “them” to the media, for example, and their introductions will say that they “claim” to no longer be gay. Or (and I think this is worse), they will simply be told that they are wrong about themselves. YOU, they’ll be told, are in denial.
It is the strangest experience of my life! What thoughts, behaviors and inclinations use to define my life are no longer the measures of my life and existence. It has been many years. More importantly to me is that I was experiencing this internal and external transformation for many years before I entered into a marriage. The marriage didn’t make me MORE changed…but did continue to draw out transformational experiences.
I plan to take this theme from post to post as a personal exercise and plan to share SOME of the transformational experiences I have walked through. Wish me luck as I plan to keep these posts open to the public.